When someone says no...believe them.

“Why don’t you want to have children?”

You heard it. The answer was no.

She said no sir. Do you know that it is tremendously insulting to continue to berate an adult woman who has said to you on multiple occasions that she has come to the reasonable conclusion that she has decided not to utilize her uterus for the production of human life?  And that shit is fine, well, and good. And it is her very personal decision. Not worthy of conversation, scrutiny, or even comment by the likes of you.

Personally, I like kids. I believe that kids are God’s gift to the world. I haven’t met a baby, I didn’t immediately want to give my entire life too. That’s me. I love children. I find it to be a personal choice. A choice for which I am grateful to have. I know that there are other women, who equally enjoy children or not and choose to not actually give birth to them. I don’t find that odd. I also don’t immediately inquire about some tragic life event that I imagine that must have had. I don't believe this woman to be selfish or self serving. No. I believe in choice. And I believe that a woman should do with her body as she sit fit. I also believe it to be honest and intuitive. You know you best. 

It’s in fact very unsupportive when you continue to tell a woman that she should reconsider. Really sir? At 30 years old. When she has spent 15 years of her life knowing with extreme certainty that she does not want to have children. We are not above learning new things from our fellow citizens, however the next time you hear a woman say “No” to such a personal question, do us all a favor and back down.

Good night.